Designing Your Social Life on Purpose
TARGET:
9-11 years
INTENSITY:
30 min / 1x per month
LEARNING GOAL
Learning to Be Happy in a Group
PEDAGOGICAL INTENTION
Ability to Set Personal Limits (Saying No)
Target SKILLS
Socio-emotional Intelligence
Co-Intelligence Human-Human
Complex Reasoning
Well-Being
MATERIALS
Social life design worksheet
Values-commitments alignment audit
DETAILED PROCEDURE
Gather the whole group together in a circle for this activity. Explain calmly to the children: "Most people live their social lives by default - saying yes to whatever comes up, joining whatever group asks. The most intentional people design their social lives on purpose."
Step 1
Social life audit: which relationships and activities actually align with your values? Which drain you? Which just happen because they're familiar?
Step 2
Say gently to the children: "Your time and energy are finite. Every 'yes' to something misaligned is a 'no' to something that matters."
Step 3
Design: which 3 relationships do you want to invest in most? What does that investment look like specifically?
Step 4
3-month social life experiment: live according to your design. Evaluate at the end.
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PROGRESS INDICATORS
The child audits their social life honestly against their values.
The child designs a 3-month social life with specific investments.
The child evaluates the experiment and articulates what shifted.