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Kind, Specific, Helpful
TARGET:
6-8 years
INTENSITY:
20 min / 2x per week
LEARNING GOAL
Developing My Ability to Communicate Harmoniously with Others
PEDAGOGICAL INTENTION
Expressing Myself Nonviolently and Respectfully
Target SKILLS
Socio-emotional Intelligence
Co-Intelligence Human-Human
Complex Reasoning
Critical Thinking
MATERIALS
Feedback frame card (Kind + Specific + Helpful)
Peer work samples
DETAILED PROCEDURE
Set up this activity in pairs. Explain calmly to the children: "Good feedback is a gift. Bad feedback is an attack. The difference is how you deliver it."
Step 1
Teach the KSH framework: Kind (respectful tone) + Specific (concrete observation) + Helpful (actionable suggestion).
Step 2
Practice on low-stakes work samples: a drawing, a game strategy, a story beginning.
Step 3
Say gently to the children: "Feedback that attacks the person shuts them down. Feedback that helps them grow opens them up."
Step 4
Partner feedback exchange on a real piece of work; check: was it kind, specific, and helpful?
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PROGRESS INDICATORS
The child gives feedback using all 3 KSH elements.
The child receives feedback without shutting down.
The child distinguishes criticism from constructive feedback.
Research Foundations
Rosenberg (2003); Dweck (2006); Denham (1998)
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